As a Christmas gift, I gave my wife the book Susie: The Life and Legacy of Susannah Spurgeon, wife of Charles H. Spurgeon. She has thoroughly enjoyed reading about Susie. I recently purchased C.H. Spurgeon’s autobiography and have read about half of it. It is fantastic. Ruth and I have enjoyed discussing their lives and have been blessed by their wisdom.
We enjoyed talking about this historic couple so much we decided to record a session for The Legacy Homeschool Reflections Podcast where Ruth and I share some of our favorite quotes. It was hard to narrow down which quotes we wanted to share, so we limited the discussion to quotes that pertain to family and raising children.
We hope you find this discussion and the wisdom of Charles & Susannah Spurgeon encouraging. Thanks for listening.
My wife and I recently had the opportunity to sit down and record for her podcast, Legacy Homeschool Reflections. In this episode we discuss the importance of family worship and offer some practical ideas on how to incorporate family worship into your daily routine.
In the book, Susie – The Life And Legacy Of Susannah Spurgeon by Ray Rhodes Jr. there is a quote that sums up how Charles and Susannah Spurgeon felt about this daily practice.
“Family Bible reading and prayer were a priority for Susie and Charles from the beginning of their marriage, and this was a the heart of their parenting. Susie remembered that whether they “lodged in some rough inn on the mountains or in the luxurious rooms of a palatial hotel in a city,” they did not neglect reading the Bible and praying together. The elements of family worship modeled by Charles included Bible reading/explanation, prayer, and hymn singing. As the Puritan Matthew Henry declared, “They who pray in the family, do well. They, who read and pray, do better. But they who sing, and read, and pray, do best of all.”
It has been my goal to model our family worship after C.H. Spurgeon and the Puritans. I hope you enjoy the podcast. May the Lord bless you and your family as you seek Him daily.
Rhodes, R., Jr., Susie: The Life And Legacy Of Susannah Spurgeon (Chicago, IL: Moody Publishers), 2018, 94
You may be wondering why there is a tab on this website
entitled Saturday Morning Breakfast (SMB).
If you have read SMB, you may still be wondering why this was
created. SMB is a bit of an odd duck, so
I decided to offer an explanation.
You will find several things on Saturday Morning Breakfast. First, it is a bit of an eccentric dialog with myself, while in a groggy state, as I get up on Saturday morning and make pancakes or waffles for my family. It is partially a recipe for pancakes and bacon and partially a reflection of what most of my Saturday mornings have entailed for about 15 years. Most days of the week I leave early for work, but on Saturdays, I sleep in a bit. When I get up I typically make breakfast and then we have family worship.
Yes, there is a recipe for pancakes, but the real recipe is the outline for family worship. If you are not currently having family worship, let me encourage you to make it part of your daily routine. It does not have to be complicated or ritualistic. It really is a very simple thing. Sing. Read the Word. Pray. These are the important elements that should be covered every day, if possible.
Family worship does not have to take a long time, and it does not have to be complicated. If your children are not used to sitting still, start out by singing one simple hymn or praise song. Read a short passage of Scripture. There are lots of short Psalms. Then say a short prayer. If your children do not want to cooperate, you may need to lovingly discipline them. However, return to finish family worship.
One thing to remember is that you want your children to
enjoy worship of our great and mighty God.
If you force them in anger it is going to exasperate them. Colossians 3:21 says, “Fathers, do not
provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.” Exercise self-control and lead your family
with a joyful heart.
As this becomes routine you may want to add a catechism and/or other readings. The Catechism for Boys and Girls is an easy one to go through. There are many great books that can be helpful for family worship. We have enjoyed Israel Wayne’s books, Questions God Asks and Questions Jesus Asks. Dr. Joel Beeke also has a set of short stories that are great for family worship entitled, Building on the Rock. Adding these elements can be very helpful for engaging discussion and are good teaching tools.
I have recently been reading C.H. Spurgeon’s autobiography and discovered some great stories about his involvement in family worship as a boy and a man. Even Spurgeon was a bit of a challenge as a boy. Enjoy this story and add family worship to your home today.
When I was a very small boy, I was allowed to read the Scriptures at family prayer. Once upon a time, when reading the passage in Revelation which mentions the bottomless pit, I paused, and said, “Grandpa, what can this mean?” The answer was kind, but unsatisfactory, “Pooh, pooh, child, go on.” The child, however, intended to have an explanation, and therefore selected the same chapter morning after morning, and always halted at the same verse to repeat the enquiry, hoping that by repetition he would importune the good old gentleman into a reply.
The process was successful, for it is by no means the most edifying thing in the world to hear the history of the Mother of Harlots, and the beast with seven heads, every morning in the week, Sunday included, with no sort of alternation either of Psalm or Gospel. The venerable patriarch of the household therefore capitulated at discretion, with, “Well, dear, what is it that puzzles you?” Now “the child” had often seen baskets with but very frail bottoms, which in course of wear became bottomless, and allowed the fruit placed therein to drop upon the ground; here, then, was the puzzle,—if the pit aforesaid had no bottom, where would all those people fall to who dropped out at its lower end ?—a puzzle which rather startled the propriety of family worship, and had to be laid aside for explanation at some more convenient season.
Queries of the like simple but rather unusual stamp would frequently break up into paragraphs of a miscellaneous length the Bible-reading of the assembled family, and had there not been a world of love and license allowed to the inquisitive reader, he would very soon have been deposed from his office. As it was, the Scriptures were not very badly rendered, and were probably quite as interesting as if they had not been interspersed with original and curious enquiries. I can remember the horror of my mind when my dear grandfather told me what his idea of “the bottomless pit” was. There is a deep pit, and the soul is falling down,—oh, how fast it is falling! There; the last ray of light at the top has disappeared, and it falls on—on—on, and so it goes on falling—on—on—on for a thousand years! “Is it not getting near the bottom yet? Won’t it stop?” No, no, the cry is, “On—on—on.” “I have been falling a million years; am I not near the bottom yet?” No, you are no nearer the bottom yet; it is “the bottomless pit.” It is on—on—on, and so the soul goes on falling perpetually into a deeper depth still, falling for ever into “the bottomless pit”—on—on—on—into the pit that has no bottom! Woe, without termination, without hope of its coming to a conclusion!
I am sure the young Spurgeon had some serious thinking to do
after this grave warning from his grandfather.
As you incorporate family worship into your daily routine remember it is
not always easy, but it is a great tool for discipling your children and
drawing their hearts close to yours.
When I was in college at the University of Houston, I
usually kept to myself. I was an
engineering major and not very well equipped with social skills. However, I had began to learn a little about
Christian apologetics and my faith had been growing.
Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.
1 Corinthians 16:13 ESV
One day I was having lunch in a campus cafeteria and I somehow got into a conversation about Christian denominations. I began to explain that there were some denominations that had become liberal and were not holding to the truth of Scripture. Before I knew it, a crowd was beginning to gather and not everyone agreed with my conservative convictions. I still remember the look on a young man’s face as he snickered and said to a friend, “Watch this.” He then presented me with a problem he seemed very confident would stump me. He said, “Did you know the word ‘hell’ did not exist when the Bible was written?”
I wish I knew then what I know now about the history of Scripture, but I did have sense enough to know that the Bible was not originally written in English. Instead of trying to debate him in an area that I was not too confident in, I simply replied that I would have to do a little research and get back with him. Then I moved on to other conversation. I watched the guy’s smirk fall away and he walked away apparently disappointed. I supposed he had hoped that I would act shaken or perhaps he just wanted to debate. My point is that I did not allow his criticism to shake my faith. I stood firm.
I have set the Lord always before me; because he is at my right hand, I shall not be shaken.
Psalm 16:8-11 ESV
Had I thought about it a little I could have easily refuted his attempt to remove the doctrine of hell from Scripture. The reality is that none of the words we find in our English Bibles existed when the Bible was written. The English language did not exist as we know it during the time of Christ. Furthermore, the Greek word we translate as “hell” is transliterated into English as “Gehenna.” This literally means a place of fire and eternal punishment. His criticism was irrelevant.
I told this story to my children the other night as we were wrapping up family worship. I encouraged them that if someone ever presents information critical of Christianity, and they are unable to answer, to not let it shake them. They just need to smile and say, “I’ll have to look that one up.” God’s Word is very defensible, and pretty much every criticism that has been made of it has been refuted in the past. I highly recommend owning a harmony of the Gospels such as Thomas and Gudnry’s. Having a copy of Gleason Archer’s Encyclopedia of Bible Difficulties is worth having on your shelf as well. If you would like something more modern, Jason Lisle’s book, Keeping Faith in an Age of Reason: Refuting Alleged Bible Contradictions can be very handy.
What books we have on our shelves is not my ultimate point. What I want to drive home is that God has called us to stand firm in our faith. We may not ever get answers to all our questions, but we can trust that the Creator of the universe and the Savior of mankind is as real as the screen you are staring at. Our children need to know that they can trust Him no matter what they are confronted with.
Therefore, my brothers, whom I love and long for, my joy and crown, stand firm thus in the Lord, my beloved.
Philippians 4:1 ESV
I believe it is imperative that we teach our children that they can trust the Scriptures and that they can stand firm in their faith. There have been a few stories in the news about well know pastors of large churches essentially saying we did not need to believe in the inerrancy and sufficiency of Scripture. They think these “old fashioned” beliefs will drive people away. The reality is there are many churches who have made this mistake in the past and now they have dwindled to almost nothing. Compromising on the authority of the Word of God is not the answer to building the kingdom. Jesus did not do this. Instead, we must trust the Lord and equip ourselves to defend His Word. I have discovered that my children find it exciting when they learn that there are good answers to tough questions. They then want to go out and defend their faith and share the gospel. At the same time, I often remind them that they may not always be able to answer the critic. That is when they must stand firm and trust Jesus Christ. Then they can come home and ask their daddy.
Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm.
For the last several months my fifteen-year-old son and I
have been planning to take an over night canoe trip down the Colorado River in
Texas. Every time we have had a weekend
that would work the river has been too high.
We have had a lot of rain. This
past weekend we were planning to go when something else came up. We were supposed to drive to Oklahoma and
pick up a friend. We decided we could
camp a night in the Ouachita Mountains instead.
Unfortunately, that fell through at the last minute. We thought we could turn back to the canoe
trip again, but the weather showed rain on Friday and high winds on
Saturday. That is not the kind of
weather that makes a fun canoe trip.
My son and I have been going on camping trips for
years. We both love spending time
together around a campfire under the stars.
He was disappointed when everything fell through. Saying a quick prayer, I asked the Lord for
wisdom. I took a quick look at Texas
weather and saw that the rain was going to stay east of Garner State Park. The only question was, would there be any open
sites? Even in the winter Garner is one
of the most popular state parks in Texas, and the weather was looking pretty
good. I jumped on the Texas State Parks
website and to my pleasant surprise there were plenty of sites available. The next morning, we hit the road for the 4-and-a-half-hour
drive to our destination west of San Antonio.
Garner State Park lies on the crystal-clear waters of the Frio River. My son and I spent the afternoon hiking the hills, exploring caves, and skipping rocks across the cold clear waters. The hymn, This is My Father’s World kept coming to mind as we looked at the beautiful scenery. After a sausage and chili dinner we sat around the camp fire and read a couple chapters in the Bible. I am so thankful my son has developed a love for the Word of God and is happy to sit and discuss scripture.
To my surprise, the young man suddenly said, “Daddy, I am
not a father, and this may not be my place, but there is something I want you
to always tell other dads to do.” This
peaked my interest and I asked him to proceed.
My son said, “Remind fathers to enjoy their children.” He went on to tell me how much spending time
doing fun things, like camping, has meant so much to him. He also pointed out an anecdotal example of
another family we know that has 10 children with the youngest being 13. Most of the children are adults now and all
of them are professing Christians with good character. They are also a joy to be around. The father is a Godly man that has spent a
lot of time with his children, going on fun adventures. He contrasted this family with another who
has had issues, and, in his opinion, he did not see the father spending much
time doing things with his children that they enjoy.
I do believe my son’s observation is something important to consider. While I am not advocating that a father turn his house into a circus of nothing but fun and games, it is very important to cultivate an atmosphere of joy in the home. There must be a balance of discipline, character training, Biblical discipleship, and fun. These focus areas are not mutually exclusive. My son and I were able to have some serious discussion about defending his faith and standing up under trial. Yet these serious matters go hand in hand with doing things we love to do.
My son, give me your heart, and let your eyes observe my ways.
Proverbs 23:26 ESV
Children will always remember the fun times that had with
their dad. I believe enjoying time with
a child is one of the most important tools in gaining their heart. When they are enjoying time with their father,
they are often more open to listen.
These are great moments when you have a unique opportunity to share the
hope that is within you (1 Peter 3:15) with your own children.
But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect.
1 Peter 3:15 ESV
Dad – enjoy your children.
It won’t be long, and the opportunity will be gone.
I understand camping is not for everyone but consider how
you might enjoy spending time with your children. Here are some ideas.
Family game night
Taking a walk in a park
Have a tea party (Little girls love tea parties with Daddy)
Throwing a ball in the yard
Dads, lets enjoy our children and pray for the fruit of tender hearts toward you and toward our God.
Thank you for visiting and allowing me to share a few thoughts about homeschooling. These are not Deep Thoughts by Jack Handy. No, this is a place where I will share what the Lord has been teaching me as I attempt to train my children and bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). This is, after all, the imperative of scripture to fathers.
While you probably will not find anything here as profound
as Jack Handy, Lord willing, you will find Biblical exhortation and practical
ideas that will help you as a homeschool dad.
I plan to cover topics such as:
Family worship – How do we do it well?
Supporting your wife’s homeschooling work
Prayer – How do you find time?
Engaging the culture as a Christian family
Ministry for ordinary dads and families
Equipping your children to defend their faith
What is a dad’s role in homeschooling?
What resources are there for me as a homeschool dad?
Like my book, I will keep these posts short and sweet. In the multitude of words sin is not lacking (Proverbs 10:19 NKJV). We all need encouragement from time to time and this homeschool dad thing can be frustrating and hard. However, the Lord has called us to do this and He is faithful. I would love to hear from you that we may sharpen one another (Proverbs 27:17). Please leave a comment below or connect with me on social media.
The Lord has often done extraordinary things through ordinary people. He even works through us ordinary homeschool dads as we depend on His Word to guide us. The great thing is, God’s Word is truly profound. Jack Handy – he wasn’t.
Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.